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Answers to frequently asked questions

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What is your answer to Ken Silva? Brother Ken Silva over at Apprising Ministries performs an important and much needed service by pointing out false teaching and false teachers who lead …

Did Jesus define marriage as only between a man and a woman? Recently Ken Silva of Apprising Ministries used the “Jesus said it ain’t okay” argument from Matthew 19:3-7. Here is his email to me and my response….

Are there any same sex couples in ancient history? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Thanks for such an interesting question. Same sex activity is mentioned in ancient writings as far back as 4000 years …

Why would a preacher constantly make anti-gay remarks? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
The situation you describe troubles many Christians these days. Some preachers appear to be obsessed with homosexuals …

Since gay couples cannot legally marry, is sex in a committed relationship sin? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
No, two people of the same sex in committed relationship are not committing sin when they have sex with each other. Some …

If you’re a gay Christian, does God still love you? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Yes, God absolutely, positively DOES love gay and lesbian Christians. God also loves transexual and bisexual Christians….

Does 1 Cor 6:9 mean I can’t be gay AND Christian? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Thanks for the interesting question. Many modern Christians have embraced false teaching about 1 Corinthians 6:9. They …

Does Romans 1:26-27 refer to heterosexuals acting like homosexuals? Yes, describing heterosexuals acting like “homosexuals” may be part of what Paul describes in Romans 1:26-27 and by the way, that was the understanding …

Does Romans say that God gives gay people over to homosexuality? No – Romans does not say that or anything even close to that. Paul makes a brilliant argument in Romans 1 by pointing out the results of idolatry. Paul …

How can you say that the Sodom story in Genesis 19 is about lack of hospitality? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Many Christians think of inhospitality as a minor breach of social etiquette, similar to not having clean towels in the …

How can we build bridges of trust with non-gay Christians? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Achieving rapprochment (establishing friendship and trust) with anti-gay Christians can be a frustrating effort. When …

What is the mark of the beast? Rick Brentlinger Answers – “And I stood upon the sand of the sea, and saw a beast rise up out of the sea , having seven heads and ten horns, and …

God saves gays but do you think He wants them to stay gay? Rick Brentlinger Answers –

God delights in saving gays and everyone else who repents of sin and trusts Jesus Christ alone for salvation.

Nothing …

Gay marriages can’t produce children so case closed, right? Rick Brentlinger Answers – That’s a very interesting question. Let’s look at it from a scriptural viewpoint.

Does the Bible forbid barren women …

Isn’t it all about sex for you gays and lesbians? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
No, its not all about sex. You have a very shallow idea about what gay and lesbian partnerships are all about. Being gay …

Is there any evidence of an actual gay marriage in the bible? Rick Brentlinger Answers – To answer your question, we first have to describe marriage in the Bible. A marriage in the Old Testament was not authorized …

Can you suggest reliable, sound Bible commentaries which are not anti-gay? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Most modern Bible commentaries tend to be anti-gay when dealing with the clobber passages and marriage. Those which are …

Do you acknowledge pedophilia in any way? If not, why do you say that the centurion Jesus talked to in Matthew 8 had a gay lover? Your question implies that if gays view the Centurion and his servant as a partnered same sex couple, then gays must be pedophiles.

I’ve dealt with …

How could David have a romantic, sexual partnership with Jonathan when it is written that he had wives/children and even committed adultery with Bathseba? Rick Brentlinger Answers

Great question Cyril. Many gay men and lesbian women have biological children. Entering a heterosexual marriage and having …

Where can I get some good gospel tracts to pass out? Rick Brentlinger Answers

– LivingWaters.com has a way cool, trillion dollar bill gospel tract with President Obama’s picture in color.

The …

Why do homosexuals believe that homosexuality is not a sin? Homosexuals believe homosexuality is not a sin because there is nothing sinful about people’s sexual orientation per se. Homosexuality and heterosexuality …

How can I tell if I’m gay or bisexual? There are a number of ways to tell if you’re gay or bisexual. I’ll do my best to give a thoughtful answer with the hope that other readers will also provide …

Does the Bible say homosexuals will go to hell? No, the Bible NEVER says all homosexuals will go to hell. That is a myth based primarily on the NIV mistranslation of 1 Corinthians 6:9 plus the modern …

Are mainline evangelicals becoming more open to homosexual Christians? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
The move toward accepting gay Christians as part of the body of Christ is clearly observable in the Emergent Church movement …

Does Romans 1:26 condemn lesbians?
No, Romans 1:26 does NOT condemn lesbians. Some anti-gay Christians believe Paul is condemning lesbian sexuality because of Romans 1:26.

“For …

What study Bibles do you recommend? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Study Bibles are quite helpful because they provide context, explanation and historical info on difficult verses. The …

Is gay marriage scriptural? Yes, gay marriage falls within the range of what can reasonably be called scriptural. Here is our reasoning. “But from the beginning of creation, God …

Did God intend men or women to have committed same sex marriage partnerships? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
That’s an interesting question. First, God certainly knew that committed, same sex marriage partnerships would be part …

Does “likewise” in Romans 1:27 equate gay sex with lesbian sex?
One of the popular mis-interpretations of Romans 1:26-27 is that its talking about lesbians in v. 26 and gay men in v. 27. I disagree with that view …

How does a mature gay Christian define sexual sin?
How does a mature gay Christian define sexual sin is such a wonderful question Mollie. I’ve answered a similar question already, Since gay couples …

How do you interpret Romans 1:27? Romans 1:27 is not now and never has been a reference to two men falling in love and partnering to spend their lives together. Romans 1:27 describes the …

What did Paul mean when he used the Greek word arsenokoitai? Arsenokoitai is an interesting Greek word. Despite what some authority figures say, arsenokoitai is never used in any extant literature from ancient times …

How can I know for sure I am saved? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Knowing for sure that we are saved depends on what we’re trusting for salvation. If we’re trusting a church or our church …

How can I reconcile homosexuality and my desire to be right with God?
Reconciling your homosexuality with your heart’s desire to be right with God is not a big problem IF you start by reading scripture in context. Only …

How can one be gay and Christian? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
You’ve asked a question many people ask. There is no short answer except to say that what is commonly taught, that when …

When is it appropriate for a same sex couple to begin a sexual relationship? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
A sexual relationship is appropriate when two people are in committed relationship before God and their community.

I …

How can I get my mother to accept that me being gay is not a sin? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
I know how frustrating it can be, trying to explain to your parents that being gay is not the sin they think it is. Many …

Is it possible to change from homosexual to heterosexual? Used by permission of slapupsidethehead.com
Rick Brentlinger Answers –
You’ve asked a very important question. My answer is: No, people do …

How do you answer the verse that says homosexuals will not go to heaven? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Thanks for the good question. The verse that is alleged to say, ‘homosexuals will not go to heaven’ is 1 Cor 6:9.
“Do …

Can you convince me that Romans 1 is NOT talking about gays and lesbians? There are many Godly reasons to reject the tired old argument that “Romans 1 is talking about gays and lesbians.” I’ll list a few reasons here and provide …

How do you interpret Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13, man should not lay with man? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Leviticus 18:22 was given to the children of Israel, in the cultural, historical and religious context of Lev 18:3, 21 …

Does Romans 1:26-27 condemn homosexuals? No, Romans 1:26-27 does not condemn gays, lesbians, homosexuals, bisexuals or transgendered people. Every Christian has a duty before God to interpret …

How can you reconcile being gay with what the Bible says? Rick Brentlinger Answers –

It is not possible to give you a three sentence answer to such an excellent question. I encourage you to click on the …

How do you know if you’re homosexual? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Our wonderful God created us as complex beings who need emotional, physical and spiritual companionship to thrive. Answering …

How do I answer verses which seem to condemn gays? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
The clobber passages are often used like a weapon against gays and lesbians. The clobber verses most often quoted to “prove”…

If David and Jonathan were gay, why were they not put to death? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Thaanks for such a great question about David and Jonathan. When people read the Old Testament, they tend to read into …

Does 1 Cor 7:2 exclude gays and lesbians from marriage? The words used to describe marriage in the Bible are used by misguided Christians to attack gays and lesbians. When God describes Adam, a male and Eve,…

Why are some people homosexual? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Homosexuality is a normal condition for about 5% of the human population. Scientists and theologians still disagree over …

Isn’t it true that God hates fags? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Sounds like you’ve been hanging around Fred Phelps and his strange family. No, the Bible never says that God hates fags,…

Do bisexuals go to heaven? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Yes, every bisexual who trusts Jesus Christ alone for salvation will go to heaven. God loves bisexuals as much as He loves …

Does becoming a Christian make you heterosexual? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
No, becoming a Christian does not make gays into straights or homosexuals into heterosexuals. When God saves us, He doesn’…

Does the Bible say anything about watching gay sex online? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Our conduct as Christians is supposed to glorify God and be pleasing in His sight. Often we fall short of living up to …

Is Jesus describing gays in Matthew 19:12? Rick Brentlinger Answers –
Yes, I do believe Matthew 19:12 describes gays.

That is even the view of some very anti-gay Christians like Dr. Robert …

What are some hints to know if I’m gay? Sparrow Answers –
Victoria’s comments are bold and Sparrow’s answers follow.

“I’m only 14, and this is when you’re supposed to figure out …

Is it true that I will go to hell because I am a lesbian and how can I know for sure? No, the Bible never says lesbians are going to hell because they are lesbians. And you can know for sure you are going to heaven when you die. The Bible …

What is the purpose of committed gay relationships? Rick Brentlinger Answers –

In the Bible, the primary purpose for marriage (what some gays and lesbians call a committed faithful partnership) is …

Can you help us find a church for our son who is gay? Rick Brentlinger Answers –

This is an email I received recently asking for help in locating a gay-friendly church.

“My 18 year old son, who …

Can you please show in scripture where God accepts a loving, committed gay relationship? Rick Brentlinger Answers-
Concerned Christian also said:

“I have found passages were God encourages marriage between a man and woman, and he …

Are lesbians treated the same as gays in the Bible? No, it is fair to say that lesbians are not treated the same as gays in the Bible. Lesbians are treated differently in scripture in the sense that lesbian …

Why didn’t God make homosexuals with the ability to reproduce? Rick Brentlinger Answers-

That’s an interesting question but it seems to assume several things that are not true.

First, your question assumes …

How can a person be a Christian and gay at the same time? Cristino writes:

“I was in the gay lifestyle for more than half of my life until I came to know Christ as my God and Saviour.

I repented of all …

Are nocturnal emissions or wet dreams normal or sinful? Rick Brentlinger Answers – “If any man among you becomes unclean because of a nocturnal emission , then he shall go outside the camp. He shall not …

How did you decide that Romans 1:26 does not condemn lesbians?
We believe Romans 1:26 does not condemn lesbians based on context and the words used by Paul. Its important to remember that Romans 1:26 was written …

How can you say that Romans 1 has nothing to do with homosexuality? Romans 1 has nothing to do with homosexuality because the text of scripture never mentions homosexuality. There were common Greek words God and Paul could …

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